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10 Positive Discipline Tips I Learned from my Counselor
“How are you doing today?” my counselor asked as I entered her office. I wondered if she noticed the smudged mascara on my face and assumed, correctly, that I had been crying. “I’m stressed,” I said, skipping the niceties and and plopping on the floral couch. “My kids are making me insane lately, and I am especially struggling with my son. He’s just so strong willed and independent and emotional and we’re having trouble getting him listen to us and I’m running out of ideas of what to do.” Just this morning, I went on, I had to navigate the meltdown that happens every time I ask him to…
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Is Spanking Biblical? An Extensive Exegesis by a Skeptical Mama – Part 3
This is final installment of a three part series. Read part one here, part two here. The Punishment for Sin God will punish his disobedient children. It is the natural consequence for sin. Yet, God always does it in love. It’s clear in Scripture. Consider Psalm 89:30-34, in which God speaks of David’s offspring: “If his children forsake my law and do not walk according to my rules, if they violate my statutes and do not keep my commandments, then I will punish their transgression with the shebet and their iniquity with stripes, but I will not remove from him my steadfast love or be false to my faithfulness.” Those terms “iniquity”, “transgressions” sound familiar, don’t they? They’re…
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Is Spanking Biblical? An Extensive Exegesis by a Skeptical Mama – Part 2
This is part two in a three part series. Read part one here. What is “the Rod”? The Hebrew Shebet The word “rod” that we see in the aforementioned proverbs is the Hebrew shebet. According to Strong’s concordance, shebet can be translated as a staff, stick, or rod “used for beating or striking…and chastening” but also as a shepherd’s crook (as translated in Psalm 23), the “scepter of a king” or ruler, and, oddly, the tribe of Israel (perhaps alluding to the idea of a branch). In fact, you can see here that the term shebet is mostly translated as tribe, not a physical rod at all. So already, it’s clear…
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Is Spanking Biblical? An Extensive Exegesis by a Skeptical Mama – Part 1
Once, before we had kids, Kevin passed me a strip of leather. About two inches wide, ten inches long, and a quarter of an inch thick, it resembled an extra-large bookmark. “What’s this?” I asked. “My parents went to a Growing Kid’s God’s Way conference and came back with this leather strap.” My mouth dropped open. I imagined the welts that could be conjured up by such a thing. “They got this at a Christian parenting conference?” “Yup.” “Did they use it on you?” “I don’t think so,” he said. He did recall the many times his dad reached for his belt when he or one of his brothers were…